alexandra elle @alex_elle

alex_elle In my new book, After the Rain, I talk about my experience with this in the essay titled “Validation.” What a wild ride of learning it has been—but I am so grateful to now know that loving someone does not require (or call for) self-abandonment. . . Community: What has love taught you? . . You can pre-order After the Rain at the link in my bio.

alex_elle Notes to self for the week. In my journal, I’ve been writing a lot about ease and boundaries and how I show up in my relationships/work/life. There’s so much duality in it all. Sometimes the lessons are so overwhelming 🥴. Necessary though, so I’m leaning in. . . Community: Feel free to add your own notes on boundaries in the comments. What are you learning about them in your life? . . Want to support my work? Pre-ordering my new book “After the Rain” is welcomed. The release date is 10/13—and I’m so ready. 🙌🏾

alex_elle Just in case someone else needed this note to self. . . Community: Does this feel challenging to work through for any of y’all? Why or why not?

alex_elle Gentle reminder: You can let people go and not regret it. You can let people go and feel devastated about it. Neither makes you a bad or weak person. Both can make room for a deeper understanding of love, loss, and changing relationships. Lean in. . . Community: What have you learned about letting go? What has it made space for? . . “After the Rain” is on sale for pre-order at the link in my bio. The countdown to 10/13 begins! 🙌🏾

alex_elle A thread for us. . . Gentle Reminder: self-forgiveness is a daily practice. . . Community: What does self-forgiveness feel like in your life? Dig deep. Get creative w/ your answer in the comments and/or your journal. . . PS. Registration closes for my inner-child journaling course,”Pathway to Peace,”at 12pm on Saturday. Link in bio to learn more and register.

alex_elle A gentle reminder for us—with emphasis on *and* . . Community: What are you making space for in your emotional suitcase? What’s staying and what’s going?

alex_elle The word “Chosen” has been coming up A LOT in my conversations, in my writing practice, in my fear + uncertainty, and in my self-inquiry. I wanted to get a community conversation going here on being chosen, answering our call, saying yes to our heart’s work or desires even if it’s scary. . . Looking forward to the comments here and leaning into this deeper w/ y’all.

alex_elle Just in case you needed a reminder. No more settling out of comfort—or staying in unhealthy relationships (romantic or platonic or familial) because you’re wishing it was something that it wasn’t. You are worthy of authentic and unconditional love. . . My inner-child journaling this week brought me to this mantra. After feeling unworthy for so much of my life, nurturing my younger self has looked like making sure these affirming words were given the room and permission to take up space. . . I know growth is hard. Emotional recalibrating is challenging. Unlearning to re-learn is intense. Through it all we are deserving. Through it all we can become free. . . Community: What’s your inner-child affirmation of the week? Leave it below. . . Heads up: LAST CALL (for real this time) for group 2 of my Pathway to Peace journaling course. We start on 9/6 (this Sunday)—and I have extended sign up until 9/5 because so many of you asked to sign up after the cart closed. Link in bio to learn more and register.

alex_elle I’m not sure who may need this—but I did this morning.

alex_elle A gentle reminder that self-care IS community care. . . Don’t let anyone trick you into thinking that taking care of yourself isn’t a major part of collective healing—healing THE collective. . . This mantra is something I always come back to. I pray on it. I chant it. I read it. I write it down. When I am empty, I cannot give in ways that are aligned, intentional, or supportive. When I am emotionally drained and depleted, I cannot be who I want to be to others. Not only that, it’s not fair to my community to show up on E. People KNOW when you’re pouring from an empty cup—because literally and figuratively, there’s nothing there. . . Whoever needs this reminder, release the narrative that showing up for you first is wrong or shameful. If you are the cup, you must replenish. . . Let us not forget what Audre Lorde said: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence. It is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” . . Community: How is self-care showing up as community care in your life?

alex_elle My inner-child journal prompt today was: What does growth require of you + what is it making room for? . . These are some snippets from my jornal that I wanted to share. Releasing to receive was the theme of my writing practice. Letting go to make room for...Shedding to grow into... however you wanna say it. . . I am on a mission to allow joy into every corner of my life—and I know with that being the intention, I must shed. I must let go. I must release to grow. . . Yes, it’s challenging. Yes, it can be a pain in my a**, LOL. BUT I am learning so much about detaching from things I thought served my highest self—that really don’t. At the end of the day, I am clearing out my emotional suitcase and making room for abundance and self-compassion and understanding even when it’s hard as hell. . . Community, what does growth require for you? What does growth make space for in your life? . . PS. I added a few more spots to my 4 week journaling course, as requested by so many of y’all. I don’t have the capacity to lead another group of 1k—but I up’d Group 2’s capacity to 300. Link in bio to register. There are 50 spots left. When they are gone, cart is closing. xo

alex_elle Promises for the week ahead. Read these out loud. Share them. Hold them close. Write them down. Record them. Play them for yourself. Do whatever you need to do to intertwine them in your walk this week. . . Community: Leave your promises for the week below. . . Also, do yourself a favor and listen to @natalielaurensims album. Talk about affirmation for the soul. Thank you for you, Queen! 🙌🏾 . . Want to support my work? Click the link in my bio to pre-order “After the Rain.”